Today, I read a fascinating article on my favorite fitness blog, Stumptuous.com, that got me thinking.
It basically said that telling others the things you are ashamed of, or that are difficult for you to deal with, gives you power over those those same things.
Shame thrives on being kept secret. When you talk about the dark moments, you suddenly realize that you're not alone, and that others share them, too.
This made me think about writing because one of my favorite writing quotes is "The role of a writer is not to say what we can all say, but what we are unable to say." --Anais Nin
We have the freedom in our stories to talk about the shameful thoughts we all have, or relive experiences that are difficult to deal with in real life. I feel like this is freeing for both myself and the reader.
I heard a woman read from her book (I, of course, forget who) and relay a story of dropping soup she made for a church function into a gutter, and for a single moment, thinking about scooping it back into the tourine. No one would know, right?
Well, when she read that passage we all laughed because we got it. We've all experienced those same awful inner moments where we realize that maybe we're not good people. When we read about it, we're free to admit it, and realize it's not so different after all.
We're all just human, and these things are part of the experience.
What do you guys think? As writers, or readers, do you find it helpful to throw light onto those darker moments?